Save Yourself From Domestic Violence

When you are scared for your safety, because of domestic violence or for any reason, you are in a serious stress situation and you need immediate stress relief.

Please call the police (dial 911), if you feel your life or your well-being is in serious danger. If you are not in a life-or-death situation, I have a simple crisis response for you to use:

Next time you find yourself scared, use this page (print it now for later) for immediate help.

What To Do First

Say the following things exactly as listed below (saying them silently in your head works perfectly well):

• "This is not real."
• "I'm OK."
• "This is just another test."
• "Help me now _____ (put in any or all of the following words: Jesus, God, guardian angel, higher self, spirit guides, Source of all, etc.)
• "I love you."
• "I'm sorry."
• "I forgive you."
• "Thank you."

Keep repeating this set of statements from the beginning, until you have calmed down and can get your mind to focus on a better feeling thought.


What To Do Next

• Reduce the drama. Stop talking! Stop participating in the scary situation!
• Change where you are- leave quietly and go some place else!
• Go outside, if possible, and walk and take long, slow breaths.
• Listen to your favorite music.
• Don't rehash the scary thing you just went through-STOP thinking about it!.
• Replace any bad thoughts with a simple statement of how you wish things were (ex. "my spouse is kind and peaceful" / "my dad is nice and gentle", etc.).
• Give yourself a pat on the back for stepping through this challenge.

Better yet...practice these 8 sentences now while you are in a safe moment. But imagine the scary person not looking scary, while you repeat the set.

You can find out more about how this works if you go to my Huna page. This technique can reduce, and eventually eliminate, the domestic violence or scary abuse from your life. All it takes is YOU doing part one and part two every time you feel scared.

These two parts of the method will help you keep the domestic violence from getting out of hand next time. As you practice the advice on this page, you will notice the domestic violence episodes weakening and decreasing in frequency until they are eventually just a memory.

IMPORTANT: Don't kill your progress, by thinking things like: "Oh, this good behavior will never last. I know he/she will do it again." You get what you think about.

It's so important that you use your imagination to think only about how wonderful your new peaceful life has become (yes, even when it's not yet the case-just pretend, because it helps you make quicker progress in changing your life).

In Summary

Trust me that it can work for you, if you do what it says on this page: Repeat the 8 statements, get calm, go someplace else, don't think or talk about what happened (unless you need to get help or explain it to the police), and do something to make yourself feel better.

This technique doesn't cost anything; and if you are willing to try anything, just do it.

Good luck. I'm rooting for you. Remember you are a wonderful and valuable person- and your seemingly helpless situation is not forever. You can learn how to make it stop.

Stick with me and keep clicking through my pages and on the underlined links; and you will find your way out of the dark and back into the light of love and peace.

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